THE MISFORTUNATE BECAME FORTUNATE

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THE MISFORTUNE BECAME FORTUNATE( OPRAH WINFREY)
The Queen of all media who was
raped at age 9: Oprah Winfrey
Best known for her multi-award winning talk show.
The Oprah Winfrey
Show — the highest-rated program of its kind in history —Oprah Winfrey is
dubbed as the ‘Queen of all
media’ and ranked as the richest African-American of the 20th century.
She was born into poverty in rural Mississippi, to an unmarried
teenage mother. who later said
that her conception was due to a
single sexual encounter and the
couple broke up not long after.
Her mother, Vernita Lee was a housemaid. Winfrey
had believed that her biological
father was Vernon Winfrey, a coal miner turned barber
turned city councilman who had
been in the Armed Forces when
she was born.
Decades later, Mississippi farmer and World War II veteran Noah Robinson, sr. claimed to be her
biological father. She was later raised in an inner-city Milwaukee neighborhood.
After Winfrey's birth, her mother
traveled north and Winfrey spent
her first six years living in rural
poverty with her maternal
grandmother, Hattie Mae (Presley)
Lee who was so poor that
Winfrey often wore dresses made
of potato sacks, for which the local
children made fun of her.
Her grandmother taught her to
read before the age of three and
took her to the local church,
where she was nicknamed "The
Preacher" for her ability to recite
Bible verses. When Winfrey was a
child, her grandmother would hit
her with a stick when she did not
do chores or if she misbehaved in
any way.
Winfrey has stated she was
molested by her cousin, uncle, and
a family friend, starting when she
was nine years old, something she
first announced to her viewers on
a 1986 episode of her TV show
regarding sexual abuse . At 13, after suffering years of
abuse, Winfrey ran away from
home. When she was 14, she
became pregnant but her son died shortly after birth. She began going to
Lincoln High School ; but after
early success in the Upward
Bound program, was transferred to
the affluent suburban Nicolet
High School, where she says her
poverty was constantly rubbed in
her face as she rode the bus to
school with fellow African-
Americans, some of whom were
servants of her classmates'
families. She began to steal money
from her mother in an effort to
keep up with her free-spending
peers, to lie to and argue with her
mother, and to go out with older
boys. Her frustrated mother once again
sent her to live with Vernon in
Nashville, Tennessee, though this
time she did not take her back.
Vernon was strict, but
encouraging, and made her
education a priority. Winfrey
became an honors student, was
voted Most Popular Girl, and
joined her high school speech
team at East Nashville High
School, placing second in the
nation in dramatic interpretation.
She won an oratory contest,
which secured her a full
scholarship to Tennessee State
University, a historically black
institution , where she studied
communication. Her first job as a
teenager was working at a local
grocery store. At age 17,
Winfrey won the Miss Black
Tennessee beauty pageant.
She also attracted the attention of
the local black radio station,
WVOL, which hired her to do the
news part-time. She worked
there during her senior year of
high school, and again while in
her first two years of college.she landed a
job in radio and began co-anchoring
the local evening news at the age of
19. She got transferred to the
daytime-talk-show arena because of
her emotional ad-lib delivery.
She became a millionaire at age 32
when her talk show went national.
She is credited with creating a more
intimate confessional form of media
communication. Forbes’ international
rich list has listed her as the world’s
only black billionaire from 2004 to
2006 and as the first black woman
billionaire in world history. As of
2014, she has a net worth in excess
of 2.9 billion dollars and has
overtaken former eBay CEO Meg
Whitman as the richest self-made
woman in America.
"If you wouldn,t quit, you wouldn,t lose. If you wouldn,t give up, you will get up" just try, whether you are crawling, walking, runing or flying, don,t stop,keep moving you will surely get there in just a matter of time. Be patience.
No matter how you were born, you are not a biological accident. You were born for a purpose and if you will persist with patience you will surely fulfil that purpose.

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secret of abundance

The Secret Of Abundance

And Why So Many Believe They Can't Have It

By Chuck Danes

The Secret Of Abundance is often thought of by many as a "secret" or that it's just not possible.

And you know, it never ceases to amaze me when talking with people regarding living life to the fullest, the broad and diverse range of responses I receive due to how people perceive that it must happen. Due to how most think it must happen, is perhaps the greatest reason why most never experience abundance for themselves.

When it comes to money, the majority believe that you must work longer, harder, or be luckier than the next person if you are to ever achieve any type of financial security. It is a common belief that "money is hard to come by," or "money doesn’t grow on trees."

Although I have never actually seen a money tree, the concept of wealth creation is much easier than most can even conceive or imagine. And that's where the problem lies. In what most are choosing to conceive and imagine.

The reality is that money is at it's core, the same as everything else. On the surface, money is nothing more than a medium of exchange. And like everything else, money can be quite simply and quite easily be attracted if one knows and understands the simple laws and principles that are responsible for drawing it to us.

Obviously money isn’t the only aspect of living a wholesome, fulfilling and abundant life, although many will disagree.

To live a truly abundant life, there are actually 3 areas that are essential if one is to really enjoy life to the fullest.

These 3 key areas are Money, Health, and Relationships.

With that in mind let's talk about money.

If you had $30,000,000.00 but your health was such that you couldn’t get out of the house to enjoy it, it would have little value. If you had the same amount of money and phenomenal health but no one to share it with, it would be nothing but worthless paper.

By the same token, if you were absolutely broke, enjoyed healthy relationships and outstanding health, it would be impossible to fully enjoy all the things that money can buy and do for those you love whatever you would like whenever you'd like. Correct?

It’s true that the majority in the world, perceive that lack and/or limitation in one or more of the three key areas of life is just how things are.

Many hope for it. Many more wish for it. Others dream about it but true abundance is only enjoyed by the minority.

But why is that? There certainly is no lack whatsoever.

With regard to money, it has been estimated that if the worlds wealth were divided among the people of the world equally, there would be enough for every single person alive, children included, to live in a 3000 square foot home and have $7,000,000.00 in cash!

Why is it that some seem to have more than they could possibly need, while others scrape by from day to day just to pay the bills and keep food on the table?

Actually, the answer is quite simple, and the simplicity of it will astound you. And that's part of the problem as well. The simplicity. Many shun the concept based on and due to the simplicity behind it all.

And as a result MOST never experience the abundance that is everyone's birthright.

Do you know what the reason is? It’s called thoughts and emotions. These 2 incredibly powerful aspects of your mind are what determines what you have or don’t have. Are the difference between living a life of overflowing abundance or barely getting by.

How can that be? Beliefs plain and simple. It is our beliefs that determine the quality of our thoughts and emotions. And that's what determines everything else.

Have you ever thought about why you believe what you believe? Have you ever considered where those beliefs came from?

All beliefs are established, for the most part, when we are just young children. They're handed down to us based on the experiences of our parents, and what they were taught and came to believe as being "true" in their life.

As life goes on, we accumulate and establish many more beliefs based on who we associate with, what our teachers tell us, the type of church we attend and what our particular religion teaches us is real, right, and true.

And life begins to unfold pretty much as we believe it will. But does it make it true? Does an experience or series of experiences make what we believe definitively true?

NO!!

One of the ancient texts makes it very clear. "As we believe we receive."

We solidify these beliefs when something happens in our life that supports what we were taught, regardless of their validity, and they then become our reality. Once this happens it becomes a deeply embedded memory picture which leads to an endless circle; a "seemingly inescapable" cycle as we experience the same results over and over and over again.

Many people believe that the occurrences that happen in their day to day lives happen because that is "Just the way life is." And for them that becomes and in many cases remains absolutely true. They remain "seemingly trapped" within the very same "seemingly inescapable cycles" proclaiming that life is a struggle is "true."

What many fail to realize is that the reason that these things happen as they do is because that is what they are attracting to themselves through their belief system.

That is how our universe was created as well as how it continues to expand, thrive and exist. And is all very simple. It has been proven scientifically, and known and talked about for thousands of years by the mystics, sages, masters and many lay people in the spiritual circles.

Many man made religions of today teach that you must do certain things or act in certain ways if you are to accomplish or accumulate. Basically, that you must be good.

We're told and taught what "good is" and we're told and taught what "bad" is. We're told and taught a lot of things. And we believe them.

In many cases, as we engage in life, our conscious mind consistently searches for memory pictures that are of limitless capacity and over time are safely tucked away in the data storehouse referred to as the subconscious mind.

The conscious mind searches for these "learned ways of being" which are further supported, solidified and validated by our life encounters and what turn out to be real life experiences.

And the conscious mind always does what it was designed to do and searches to find a record that has been stored at some point in the past. Many times these memory pictures are retrieved from many years prior gong all the way back to birth.

previously taught to us by well meaning parents or loved ones, teachers, governments, institutions, the list goes on and on. And although much of what we're told, taught and at some point believe that determine our established beliefs which we act out and carry with us through life.

And it's those beliefs combined with the many experiences we encounter which lie at the foundation of everything we attract in the way of events, conditions, circumstances, relationships, etc etc. and with unfailing and unwavering certainty manifest in our lives making our reality all the more real and true.

But much of what we've been taught isn't based on a Higher Truth. Yet at the same time, Higher Truth always provides what we believe it will.

The point?

The only "secret to abundance" is making a conscious choice to develop and establish a Higher Truth than the one acquired and currently held.

Many doubt the validity and simplicity only because it goes against the common belief systems that have been established and which they been taught to believe as being true.

In an attempt to validate what I am sharing, I’ll use the following example…

Many are familiar with the name, Roger Bannister. For those that aren’t, Mr. Bannister is the man that broke the all time record of running a 4 minute mile, on May 6th 1954.

Until the time that he accomplished that incredible feat, it was believed to be Impossible, and beyond a humans limited capacity to do so. Even psychologists said that it was beyond human comprehension or any humans ability to do so.

That was the common belief of that day, and so it was.

That is until Roger Bannister came along, who broke the previous world record, and finished in an amazing 3 minutes 59.4 seconds!

Once it was found that such a thing actually could be accomplished, that record has since been broken many times! The most recent in 2001 in an incredible 3 minites 43.13 seconds, by Hicham El Guerrouj.

How Is That Possible!? According to the world, even 4 seconds wasn’t possible. It was impossible. According to the most respected psychologists of Bannister’s day, it was Impossible. And so it was. Until someone had established the belief; the Higher Truth that it could be done, it was impossible.

Until someone had established a strong enough belief that would change history, it was and remained impossible. Since that day in 1954, many have seen that it was possible and had the desire and ability to shed the self limiting belief that held them to that limiting belief. Many since have broken that impossible record!

I could reference hundreds if not thousands of cases in all walks of life that support what is being conveyed, but I don’t have room within this article.

Look at your own life. You don’t have to be a track star to create whatever it is that you desire in your life. You don’t have to be someone else to achieve whatever you desire and enjoy more abundance in your life than you could have ever previously imagined. You don’t have to be anything other than yourself.

So what is the secret to abundance? Great news. There isn’t one. There never has been. With the exception of choosing to enhance what you believe to be true.

All that is necessary to attract all the abundance you could ever hope for, is for you to shed the self limiting beliefs that you have adopted, accepted and allowed to be stored as your truth. All that is required is that you develop an awareness of the overflowing abundance and unlimited potential provided to you by the Source of all that is or ever will be whatever you might perceive that Source to be.

The only thing required to attract whatever you desire, is that you become aware of the importance of retraining the subconscious mind.

All that is needed, is for you to change your beliefs about what is possible for you.

You have the power to choose what to believe. You have the power to choose what to think.

Change your beliefs and you will change your world.

Here's The Secret of Having Everything You Want By Guy Finley

Here's The Secret of Having Everything You Want
By Guy Finley

Everyone wonders whether or not there is one great secret for truly successful living. There is. And it is not a secret. It has been quietly, steadily telling itself right in front of us all along. We just couldn't hear it over the clatter and chatter of our own secret demands. Listen quietly for a moment. Everything can change right now. Learning to hear this supreme secret is no more difficult than choosing whether to swim against a current or to let it carry you safely to the shore. Let it speak its wisdom to that secret part of you that can not only hear what it is saying but that is, in reality, its very voice. Listen to it now. It is saying, "Want What Life Wants." Think about it. Locked within these four simple words is the secret of an uncompromising power for effortless living; a new kind of power that never fails to place you on the winning side of any situation. Why? Because when you want what Life wants, your wish is for Life itself.

"What if I don't like what life brings to me?"

"Try to see that it is not what life has brought to you that you don't like. It is your reactions that turn the gift of life into the resentment of it."

"I don't want to sound ungrateful, but speaking plainly, I'm tired of being unhappy. What difference does it make why I feel this way?"

"Because these unhappy feelings are born out of life failing to conform to your ideas of what you need to be happy. This shows you, if you will see it, that Life itself isn't denying you happiness. It is your ideas about life that have failed you. Give up these wrong ideas instead of giving up on life. Be increasingly willing to see they are nothing but a constant source of conflict. Your false nature will tell you that you must have these self-protecting ideas; that you can't live without them or you will lose something valuable. What you must do, in spite of any such protest to the contrary, is to see that you can't live with them. All you will lose is your unhappiness."

Here are two lists that will not only make these life-healing ideas more personal for you, but they will help you to help yourself make a higher choice when it comes to what you really want from life. It would be valuable to study then compare the lists to each other. You may wish to add to either list some of your own insights, which I highly encourage you to do.

Let's look at what happens "When You Want What You Want":

1. You are often nervous and anxious because life may not cooperate with your plans.

2. You are willing to sacrifice whatever it takes to get what you want, and this may include your integrity.

3. You are usually scheming in some way to win your next victory.

4. You are either in a battle or recovering from one.

5. You are unable to rest quietly when you need to.

6. You are easily angered when someone or something gets in your way.

7. You are forever driven to want something else.

8. You are against anyone else who also wants what you want.

9. You are certain that what you have is who you are.

10. You are always trying to convince yourself that you got what you want.

Now carefully consider the following. "When You Want What Life Wants":

1. You are never disappointed with what happens.

2. You are always in the right place at the right time.

3. You are quietly confident no matter what the circumstances.

4. You are out of the reach of anger and anxiety.

5. You are awake and sensitive to your surroundings.

6. You are free of ever feeling as though you've missed out.

7. You are never thrown for a loss.

8. You are in total command of events.

9. You are mentally quiet.

10. You are eternally grateful.

"Is there a simple guideline to follow when it comes to distinguishing between what Life wants and what I want? How can I easily tell which is which?"

"Always remember the following. If any want is the source of anxiety or sorrow, that want is yours and not Life's. If the want has pain, it is in vain. To let real Life flood in, pull yourself out of the flood of self-wants that promise a future pleasure but only deliver a present pain."

"How do I pull myself out of the flood of my own wants?"

"See that you are being washed away by them and you will grow tired of being bounced along. Here is a key. Never accept the presence of any mental or emotional suffering as necessary, no matter how much importance these impostors lend to a particularly pressing want. By refusing their dark presence, you make space for the present moment to give you its indefinable presence. This is where the Life that you want -- and that wants you -- is waiting."

"All of what you have said makes good sense. To tell the truth, I would like to let go and let Life lead, but I'm afraid. What will happen to me if I give up my demands? Won't I lose control of my life?"

"You cannot lose control of something you never had control over in the first place. No human being controls life -- his or hers or anyone else's. If it weren't for higher cosmic energies coming down, filling and animating your body right now, you couldn't be holding this book in your hands or reading its words. If you want to measure the level of an individual's stress, measure his insistence that life does as he wants. The only thing you will lose by learning to want what life wants is your fear of not being in control -- which was never real control in the first place but only the sensation of it born out of living with its painful opposite."

Here is the most important point of all. No human being needs control over life because, in reality, no one is apart from it. Who you really are, your True Nature, is not separate from life.

Let Life bring you itself. Welcome it. At each instant, it is new, full -- untouched and undiminished by any moment before it. To enter into this full relationship with Life is to give yourself to your Self. Fulfilling the true purpose of Life is fulfilling yourself. Here are five special key lessons to help you want what Life wants.

1. Nothing can be released and resisted at the same time, which means that any attempt to reject some weakness detected in us is the same as protecting it.

2. True nobility is not a question of birth right or social rank; it is the native estate of each soul that, upon awakening to its divine inheritance, knows the strength of these twin truths without having to think about them: justice and mercy are one, as are love and fearlessness.

3. Nothing judges you; it is what you love -- and that love alone -- that either persecutes you, or stands by you in your hour of need.

4. Whoever serves what he or she fears has failed to see that all they win for their service is to become more fearful.

5. We can spend our time struggling, in vain, to make others into what we want them to be, or we can see the inherent flaw in thinking this way and -- rather than trying to change others to suit our needs -- see through the false idea that someone else is responsible for our fulfillment.

Excerpted from "The Secret of Letting Go" Rev. Edition, Llewellyn, 2007Copyright 2007 Life of Learning. All Rights Reserved.Permission granted to reprint with author credit only.

Nothing in the universe can stop you from letting go and starting over! For the daring person who wishes to turn this possibility into reality, the keys to less stress and brighter days are found in Guy Finley's newly revised and expanded best-selling book, "The Secret of Letting Go." Just as gentle spring rains stir the seeds that become beautiful wildflowers, so will the higher lessons in this book help you let go and grow free.

THE RUINED MAN WHO BECAME RICH THROUGH A DREAM

The ruined man who became rich again through a dream.

1001 NIGHTS- Translated by John Payne. Vol 4. (C)1884. (Pg 134-35)

There lived once in baghdad a very wealthy man who lost all his substance and became so poor that he could earn his living by excessive labor.
One night he lay down to sleep, dejected and sick at heart, and saw in a dream one who said to him, "thy fortune is at Cairo; go thither and seek it".
So he set out for Cairo But, when he arrived there, night overtook him and he lay down to sleep in a mosque, presently, as fate would have it, a company of thieves entered the mosque and made their way thence into an adjoining house; but the people of the house being aroused by the noise, awoke and cried out, whereupon the chief of the police came to their aid with his officers.
The robbers made off but the police entered the mosque and finding the man from baghadad asleep there, laid hold of him and beat him with palm-rods, till he was well nigh dead. Then they cast him into prison where he abode three days after which the chief of the police sent for him and said to him;
"whence art thou?" "from baghdad" answered he. "And what brought thee to magistrate" quote the Baghdadi " i saw in a dream one who said to me, thy fortune is at Cairo; go thither to it but when i came thither, the fortune that he promise were prove to be the beating i had of thee."
The chief of the police laugh, till he showed his jaw teeth and said, "o man of little wit, thrice have i seen in a dream one who said to me, there is in baghdad a house of such a fashion and salute so-and -so in the garden, whereof is a fountain and there under a great sum of money buried. Go thither and take. 'yet i went not; but thee of thy little wit hast journeyed from place to place on the faith of a dream, which was but an illusion of sleep"
Then he gave him money saying "this is to help thee back to thy native land"
Now the house he had described was the man's own house in Baghdad; so the latter returned thither and digging underneth the foundation in his garden, discover a great treasure and (thus) God gave him abundant fortune.

LESSONS!!!
God in the old, usually speak to men through dreams. And God has not change, he's still the same and he still does that till now.

1. Believe in your dreams.
2. What you need is in you and around you. Many tends to look outward rather than look inward. A wise man said "you can make it from were you are with what you have", look inward!
3) Never despise or overlook a dream.
4. When God gives you a vision, a dream or an idea, when you fail to worked on it or trade it (matt 25v14-29) he takes it from you and gives it to another. Never neglect your dreams, vision or idea. Every vision has an appionted time and place (habk 2v3) if not pursue will be loose
5. No matter how big your dream, vision or idea, it will be tested and tired, if its a gold. But be persistent, never give up. Challenges will come on the way, but always remember that to claim your promise land, you must cross the red sea, and you must fight with the inhabitance. Before every david, there is a goliath, so runing away from challenges is runing away from your crown and throne. So face it, fight it, if its God that gave you the vision, then the victory is your already.
6. Also note you have to take actions, to go and to seek.
7. You will be mock. Until you are mocked, you can,t be made.
Finally, if you have a dream, pursue it till you get it. GOODluck.

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Advice dad gave me that shaped my life–Doris Gam-Dede.

Tell us about your background

My name is Doris Gam-Dede.  I am from Bayelsa State. I was born into a family of three sisters and a brother. I was also born a twin. I attended the University of Port Harcourt where I first bagged a certificate  in Theatre Arts. That same year I applied and got an admission into same university to study Fine Arts  and Design. After four years of study, I  practised my profession for four years with three sole exhibitions tagged, Celebration of Womanhood, where I saluted women who have helped change my life, and have done very well in their fields of endeavours.

They are the like of the former First Lady, the late Mrs. Stella Obasanjo, Fifi Ejindu, Joke Silver, Mrs. Ruth Benamesia-Opia, Hon. Abike Dabiri-Erewa, Madam Doris Fisher, among many others. After which, I became bored and found myself wanting more. This finally led me to start making clothes.

You won the young designer award recently, what influenced this?

It was a well put together show that met international standard. This was the first time I heard international added to a name in Nigeria and it lined up to the expectation. From the organising, the whole event started and finished well to an international level. I thank God for it because it actually brought someone outside Port Harcourt to know my design. I wouldn’t lie, there were many talented designers that showed up. I knew it was going to be a problem choosing the winner but I distinguished my clothes from other designers by adding beauty and a lot of colours to my clothes and I think that was how the judges picked me out. I introduced my artistic background into the clothes and that actually pulled me out of the crowd.

What kind of design do you make?

I do wearable clothes for urban chic, you can wear them any moment. I actually design for women.

For how long have you been designing?

I have been doing this for four years. I studied Fine Arts. I practise painting. It took me another four years to get into designing and I’m really happy that one of my prizes is a scholarship abroad to study because I will proudly say that among the designers, I was the only one who didn’t get formal training. I started fashion just at the back of my own hand. I’m happy that now I will get the chance of an international training. I thank God that it all worked out for good for me.

No formal training, how did you start?

I actually see myself as being blessed with my hands. I have done it all. I have done painting, interior decorations, I just finally settled in fashion because it’s now a big thing in Nigeria if you know what you are doing. I started learning how to sew by pulling out things that people have done before, especially ready made clothes, pulling them apart and putting them together.

Why did you choose the name ‘Jazz Effect’ as your brand?

Adding to the fact that I am an artist, I love music. When the word Jazz came, it came from rhythm, music and people who know me when I was in school knew I like to form circles. That was how I learnt how to sew. I would have a pair of jeans; I would rip one part off and add ankara. I will never wear my clothes the way I brought them from the shop. The effect came from that explanation. I used rhythm, music, Jazz, and then I added effect to it.

Could you tell us about your growing up days?

I grew up in the streets of Port Harcourt where not much was expected of a young girl. Most girls of my age had just prayed to finish secondary school so that a rich man will come along to marry them, but at that young age, I knew I wanted more out of life. I knew I wanted to be a boss, never waiting to work for any one. My dad, who was a strong figure in my life, had always told me and my sisters to work hard and be successful because  nothing was going to be handed to us. It stuck with me and made me who I am today.

What are your memorable moments? 

The most memorable moment in my life was when I lost my dad. I say that because he was my hero, and he is not there to enjoy the fruits of his labour.

How do you see your brand in the next five years?

I see Jazz Effect doing more international shows, giving me the opportunity to showcase Nigerian fabric to broader audience. As an entrepreneur, I believe you must be ready to work hard, make good business risk to take your  business to the next level.

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FACE TO FACE MY BEST FRIEND SNATCHED MY HUSBAND. GLORIA MBA

Gloria Mba: Face to face with best friend who snatched my husbandhttp://sunnewsonline.com/new/entertainment/gloria-mba-face-face-best-friend-snatched-husband/

By Christian Agadibe

Gloria Mba is not just a beautiful actress but she is also a resilient diva who doesn’t allow her past to wear her down. Exactly a year ago, the thespian confirmed that her marriage had crashed after she caught her best friend allegedly “having phone sex” with her husband. The Entertainer went after Gloria to find out how she has been coping after the sordid experience. And she revealed a lot, including her encounter with the ‘marriage crasher’. It’s a Sunday delight!

What makes one a good actor?

What makes one a good actor is when you understand the job and understand the character you are portraying.  For instance, you must have good vision because if they give you the role of a doctor and you don’t know anything about medicine you can’t perform the character. Moreover, reading books about medicine alone won’t be enough. You have to become a doctor by putting yourself in the character.

How do you master and deliver your lines?

I wouldn’t use the word ‘memorize’ because when you are in secondary school you have to memorize many things. But for acting, you just have to understand the character you are given. If you decide to memorize then you miss a couple of things, read the script and understand the character very well.

Did you have any formal training before coming into Nollywood?

No, like I was telling a junior colleague recently, as a child I wanted to be a broadcaster, I didn’t read anything about it. I have a diploma in Public Relations, I didn’t know anything about acting but because of my love for broadcasting I had to go into acting.

Did you have any problem coming into the industry?

I had a lot of challenges, I used to have problems pronouncing certain words, but gradually I was taught how to pronounce those words clearly. I had to work on talking fast and reducing the pace of my speech. I also worked on my dressing because the young ones look up to me.  So, all these were the challenges I faced.

You have been in the industry for a decade which movie brought you into the limelight?

The movie that brought me into the limelight was entitled, Together As One. It wasn’t easy being in the midst of top actors like Emeka Ike but it was fun. Also, there was this movie I did with Genevieve Nnaji and Jim Iyke entitled, One Love.  After that I said to myself ‘yes I can do it. I can make it in the industry’ because I was really encouraged in those movies.

Would you now say you are successful?

I am comfortably successful because as you grow older in the industry you grow wiser, you know what is right and wrong and I wouldn’t say I have gotten to my peak, but I am comfortably better.

Who do you look up to as your role model in the industry?

Some years back, I used to say people like Genevieve because I love her as an actor. The woman that brought me into the industry, I was always looking up to her. But today I would say my mother and God are my role models.

Who really is Gloria Mba?

I am friendly. I love my family and friends. I love meeting intelligent people. I am a very crazy girl but friendly (laughs),

What is the craziest thing a fan has done to you?

I was kissed in the church; I don’t know if it was excitement. I went to a church and a fan was surprised to see me, he ran to me and kissed me, I couldn’t believe it.

How was your growing up like?

It was beautiful; I had fun. I grew up in an average home. My father loves kids so much. He sent me to a military school because he had always loved military school. My secondary school was also fun. I used to dream of being a broadcaster. Also, I wanted to be a sprinter and run for Nigeria, but my father hates anything sport, and because I argue too much, he said I should go for law.

What are your likes and dislikes about Nollywood?

There is peace in Nollywood now and I like it. The dislike is that some people are cheating others in the industry. It is bad in the sense that they rob you of your merit, giving you a particular amount for a job simply because they want to make money off you. It’s bad and I have seen a lot of people complaining about it.

What is your most embarrassing moment?

The day my father chased me out of the house because I came back late from work. The whole street gathered and begged him before he could allow me into the house. It’s very embarrassing because as an adult I’m supposed to know what I’m doing.

In the industry today, most actresses give out their bodies for role…?

(Cuts in) Truth be told, some girls give out their bodies to get roles. Many of them that are coming up do this, but after giving out your body what next?

How did you meet your first love?

It happened one Sunday when I went to weave my hair, I was in secondary school then, and both of us met.

What is your advice for young girls who look up to you?

They should know what they want. A lot of people will come to you and ask for sex and it’s your choice. So, be focused, know what you want and what you came to do and if you want to date, make sure you pick someone that’s good. There are a lot of good guys in the industry.

Have you encountered lesbianism in Nollywood?

Yes, I have and I was very firm with them. We can be playing but when it gets further than necessary I won’t tolerate it. When you are not a man, why should you be touching my sensitive parts? What do they see in it? But it’s their choice. I am not against them; just don’t come close to me.

A lot of marriages break up in the industry, how do you intend to safeguard your next marriage?

From my experience, I have learnt something and I will use that as a yardstick. All marriages can never be the same but I have always wanted to be a wonderful wife.

What is your ideal man?

I love a man that is well dressed.

What’s now the relationship with your best friend who allegedly ruined your marriage?

I haven’t spoken to her for more than a year. I don’t have anything against her; God is my witness. I saw her once at Shoprite in Surulere. I don’t keep grudges for long, because if you are holding down someone, you are holding yourself down too. I wish them all the best

A EFFECTIVE WALK WITH GOD

THEME: THE CHRISTIAN WALK

TEXT:  Matthew 16:24

The Christian walk is a choice and it is a three-fold mission journey.

From our text in Matthew 16:24, Jesus said

“Then said Jesus unto his disciples, If any [man] will come after me, let him deny himself, and take up his cross, and follow me.(KJV)

The “if” there signifies a choice, or an option (check also, Deuteronomy 30:17)

Therefore, the first and most important step in the Christian faith for an effective Christian walk with Jesus is self denial.

Secondly, taking up of your cross

Thirdly, following Him

There are step to step movements for an effective walk with God and they have to be orderly followed one after the other. That is to say if you don’t deny yourself, taking up of your cross and following him is useless.

That’s why in this series of our teaching we shall be talking on the topic SELF DENIAL. First of all, what is self denial? Self denial is not a religious practice and is not performed for personal spiritual benefit.

Self is simply flesh and deny from the Greek word is translated “to say no”. I rate this as “a must-have” key for spiritual growth.

In the Winners’ family, it is our season with encounter with power; but you can never grow to realm of power without a successful and effective Christian walk and that can only start from a self denial.

Now what is self denial? From our breakdown we understand that self is flesh and deny is to say no. so simply put self denial is to say no to the flesh. Why are we saying no the flesh you may ask, it is because the self itself profited nothing, John 6:63 so will you rather partner with what will profit you nothing? My pastor said to me recently pastor George Opia “the greatest obstacle to man’s growth spiritually is the flesh." Why, is because to be  carnally minded is death and to be spiritually minded is life and peace (Roman. 8:6).

Now why will Jesus ask you to deny your flesh, was He not the one that gave it to you? The flesh is to help in our existence on earth not in our dependence. That is why Paul said in Philippians 3:3 “…and have no confidence in the flesh”. Why? Because they that are after the flesh do mind the things of the flesh Roman.8:5. And the work of the flesh are manifest: adultery, fornication, uncleanliness etc Gal. 5:19-21. God wants us to live in the flesh Ezk. 37:6 but not to mind the things of the flesh. Since God is a spirit, and we are the Children of God, we are to mind the things of the spirit Roman.8:5, John 4:24 “For as many that are led by the spirit of God, they are the sons of God Roman. 8:14” This is because the carnal mind is enmity against God because it is not subject to the Law of God. So if you want to be a friend with God and to walk with Him you must be spiritual rather than carnal.

Reading an article of Tom Terry: The Buddhist Error of self denial: What does the Bible teach?

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These were the great points I got which I like also to share with you “True self – denial put down our own hopes, desires and goals to submit to God’s will, or the desire, hope and goals of others”. Luke 22:24, “saying, father, if thou be willing, remove this cup from me; nevertheless not my will, but thine be done. Also Paul  in Act 20:24, Paul was a man that denied himself totally for Jesus and His that work, and that was why highly efficient and effective “ But none of this things move me neither count I my life dear unto me”       

Also in Philippians 1:21 he said “for to me to live is Christ and to die is gain." It takes a man that has truly denied self to say that. As Christian we should die to our flesh daily, when nothing means anything to you except Christ.

“Self denial is not an end unto itself; it indicates we are therefore growing in love for God and for others. Denying oneself for oneself is not an expression of selflessness rather a misguided expression of selfishness 1Cor 10:23-33, 1John 3:16” selfishness is what brings about self-foolishness, but selflessness brings about self-fullness in Christ and when you are full in Christ, you are out of crisis into a realm of surprises. That is you become a wonder to your world. Matthew 19:29, 6:33.

“Self denial reveals and tests our love for God and it must cost you something. Genesis 22:1-13, 1samual 23:17-18, 1corin 9:11-23, exodus 34:28, 2samual 24:24 and psalms 132v3-5”. Although scriptures every man that was truly selfless were all refer to as friends of God e.g Abraham, David, Paul and even Jesus. Why? “Because no man having put his hand in the plough and looking back is fit for the kingdom of God” Luke 9:62  Jesus had to deny himself and his throne just to come down and die for us. Peter had to denied is master is sworn to behold even in the face of a little girl just because he had not first deny himself. Matthew 26;69 but he was baptize with the Holy Ghost he was able to stood up in the midst and declared boldly that same Christ in the face of many Acts 2:14-41.

You can never love God or others as Jesus commanded Matthew 22:37-39 without first denying yourself. So love is all about self denial. “As a manifestation of love, self denial has certain conditions, which is, it must be selfless. Self denial exercised to gain some king of spiritual standing is merely the replacing of one’s personal desire or goal with another. It is nothing more than a “trade” as oppose to a true self denial. Self denial without love is a self denial without substance and is meaningless, therefore self denial is a loving expression and benefit for others in obedience to God. And it is truly impossible to express love for another person without denying oneself in deference to the other person. And to do this who must also say no to the flesh “he that fineth his life his life shall lose it and he that loseth his life for my sake shall find it”. For what shall it profit a man if he gain the world and lose his soul. Matthew 16:26

Hints: To truly denial yourself you must embrace the Holy Ghost. Paul said “but by the grace of God I am what I am” 1 cor 15:10. Cry always for a fresh out-pour, Isaiah 32:15

Before I say goodbye on this series I will love to say this; should in case you have not made that choice of making Jesus your friend, what are you waiting for? Do that now, turn to Jesus and be saved. But for you all who are believers, the Holy Spirit is our helper for a victorious living, so embrace Him. He is the one that makes Christianity a divinity through spirituality. Roman 8:26 “ likewise the spirit helpeth in our infirmities”. What you need to say no to the flesh is to walk in the spirit. Galatians 5:16

Till we meet again, it’s a goodbye from me.

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